Am I Doing It Right?

It is only natural to ask such a question whenever we take on a new endeavor that involves progressing along a learning curve. Of course, we want to check and see if we are doing it correctly, whatever the “it” is, and what the signposts and benchmarks are along the way to let us know that indeed, we are making headway, not stewing in some backwater, or circling endlessly in some Sargasso Sea of the mind, that we are making progress, that we are getting somewhere and a desirable somewhere at that, at the very least, that we are becoming more loving, more kind, more calm, more mindful. And of course, we also want assurance and reassurance along the way that what we are feeling is what we are supposed to be feeling, what is happening is what is supposed to be happening, that it is “normal,” and not a sign of being incompetent or of heading in the wrong direction and perhaps unwittingly picking up a string of bad habits along the way. …